According to cheat, routine, black … The online love of older youth died in reality.
Cctv newsWhether looking for a soul mate, exploring a heartbeat signal, or meeting like-minded friends, in the tacit understanding, more and more social software is carrying people’s complex emotions and emotional sustenance.
On a social networking platform with slogan as "follow your soul to find you", you will find that some people are lovelorn and seek comfort, some people are possessed by Versailles, some people are standing on the roof to watch the night view of the city, some people are lonely in the game, some people show their love, some people vent their anger, some people just post pictures and never talk, some people just listen to other people’s voices and never speak, but for those who seriously write self-introduction and mate selection criteria and set the top on their personal homepages.
What kind of opening remarks will get your attention?
Abandoning WeChat and QQ, whose friends are basically acquaintances, as well as software with obvious intentions, it is possible to assign a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" in the anonymous dating system combining "tree hole+light socialization" as long as you register your account and fill in your personal information.
Based on the richness of personal information and gender orientation, you can meet new "friends" by actively matching soul, voice and even video based on a large number of user groups. If you happen to be lazy, you can automatically turn on the "love ringtone" and wait for others to take the initiative to greet you.
In the anonymous social networking state, whether there is a pleasant chat or not, the first sentence of greeting is often regarded as the biggest variable.
"Are you there?"
Like most people, Ting Anne didn’t like this opening. She wrote on her home page: Chat needs to be opened correctly, otherwise it will be boring. Someone asked, "What should I say?" She didn’t reply again.
In social networking, people often unconsciously materialize each other into concrete data, but few people want to be measured in this way. "What are you doing? How old is it? What’s your height? How much do you weigh? Where are you from? Send a photo to see? " It is summarized by netizens as several ways that are most likely to cause disgust under unfamiliar social conditions.
In order to avoid the stereotype of "hello", Chen Chao in 1984 often added a "hello" at the beginning, but when both of them appeared in the dialog box at the same time, he didn’t show confidence and ease.
Countless greetings were made, but few people responded. "What kind of opening remarks will attract your attention?" Chen Chao thought for a long time.
Not wanting to appear frivolous or "checking accounts", he simply gave up this difficult preparation work for him and started with "hello". Fortunately, the automatic matching function of the system eased his embarrassment of not being able to start. In more than 40 days, including those who stopped talking after greeting, Chen Chao had more than 200 chat friends.
However, in the system with nearly ten million daily active users, Ting Anne couldn’t find anyone to chat with. When she saw thousands of unread messages, she didn’t want to destroy this almost paranoid compulsion, but she just habitually watched the numbers refresh little by little every day.
In a strange social life, the greatest pleasure of chatting is diamond cut diamond. He understands what you throw, and you can catch it immediately if he throws it back, which Ting Anne has not met. Most people often encounter looks that meet expectations, but when they open their mouths, they are completely out of the same frequency, and some people have a good chat online, but they are disappointed when they meet.
From rush to collapse … …
For Chen Chao, it is not difficult to meet from online to offline with a large user base and unlimited matches every day. "You can meet at least one person every two days. Of course, if you have time, there may be more." But at present, for him, the most difficult thing is not the problem of meeting, but it is difficult to meet a person who can get married if he wants to.
Chen Chao first met at the door of a hot pot restaurant near the girl’s home. He was 175 meters tall, short and slightly fat. Because of his divorce, he was a little unsure when waiting.
However, the initial uneasiness turned into embarrassment at the moment of meeting. What finally made him collapse was not the face value, but the weight.
"It looks like 100 kg in the photo and nearly 100 kg in the real person" became a fact that he completely resisted in his heart, "and even felt cheated". He didn’t have the patience to explore each other’s interesting souls. After chatting for more than ten minutes, Chen Chao fled and declined each other’s invitation to have dinner on the grounds of something.
On anonymous society software, Chen Chaola hacked many people. Some people think he is ugly, some people think his skin is dark, some people ask for gifts as soon as he comes up, and some people think he looks too old.
Accidents happen every day. In just over forty days after registering an account, many stories happened to Chen Chao. I was very excited at first, but in the end, I found that I wanted to sell him tea, and I also played lottery and borrowed money. There is a girl who says that she will listen to anything, including getting married, as long as she is given 100,000 yuan. "Everyone has it, it depends on your luck." This is his experience for more than forty days.
After chatting with countless "friends", Chen Chao met a girl who was satisfied with all aspects, but later broke up because of the other person’s daily expenses.
Short-term high-frequency chat will lead to ambiguity, while long-term chat will lead to dependence, so Ting Anne doesn’t want to start a relationship. As a neat freak, the details of the blind date, such as tartar, breath, greasy hair, oily fingerprints on glasses lenses, dandruff on clothes collars, and even chapped lips and too little hair, are intolerable to her.
Last summer, Ting Anne met an online friend who had been chatting for three months, and they made an appointment to meet in a Japanese restaurant. Because it is a tatami private room, she needs to take off her shoes when she goes in for dinner. When the other person stepped in, she vaguely smelled the smell of sweaty feet. Out of politeness and self-restraint, she responded with "mm-hmm" almost all the time. After returning, Ting Anne sent a message "We are not suitable" to the other party, and then blacked out the other party.
People are always seeking a certain lifestyle. Catching cats, chasing dramas and eating constitute Ting Anne’s whole life after work. At the age of 32, she has been floating in Shanghai for ten years, earning 15,000 yuan a month. Excluding the rent of 4,500 yuan, the rest of the money is free to control.
Looking forward to love? "I also look forward to it!"
Self-isolation and longing for love at the same time, she looked it up on the Internet, "Well, ‘ Sickness ’ 。”
Like Chen Chao and Ting Anne, many people try to find love and even look forward to marriage on the Internet, but later they gradually find that true love is beyond their reach. Under the mask of anonymous society, a more authentic self and a more authentic human nature are exposed.
After being cheated for nearly 100,000 routines for half a year, he "runs the road"
Zhou Zhou hasn’t logged into the online chat account for a long time. On the background wall of the homepage is a photo taken by her, with long hair shawl and a round fan covering her face. She is lazily leaning against the window sill in a long red dress. On her boasting wall, someone left a message: A burst.
Compared with others, everything between Zhou Zhou and Wang Shengxue seems to go smoothly from online admiration to offline hand-in-hand. Sheng Wang once told Zhouzhou that he had a takeaway shop in Hangzhou, so it was not a problem to support his family, but he wanted to open another branch for the sake of a better life in the future.
In April last year, they decided to get together. In the first month, the two of them joined the wheat almost every day. In May, Wang Shengxue began to borrow money from her for various reasons, and asked Zhouzhou to ask her parents for money, and even asked her to cash in a credit card. Parents’ money plus their own deposits, plus the cash of credit cards and flowers, Zhouzhou gave Wang Shengxue nearly 100,000 yuan before and after.
Until October, after Sheng Wang didn’t succeed in asking for money for the last time on the grounds of capital turnover, she was quickly blacked out, just half a year after they met. In the three months after Wang Shengxue disappeared, the phone stopped and WeChat didn’t return. When I thought of this, Zhouzhou cried. "Looking through the chat records, I realized how stupid I was. I was already in the routine from the beginning, and the last time I didn’t get the money, I lost my temper at me, and then I paved the way."
"The most disturbing thing in life is being suspected." This is the last message that Wang Shengxue sent to Zhouzhou.
The flower garden is not clear, the price is not paid, the driver’s license is not tested, the garage is not bought, the job is uncertain, and there is no deposit, but life goes on. She said that she never thought that she would be so embarrassed at the age of 28. In addition to the flowers, the debt of 70 thousand yuan on the credit card has entered the repayment period.
Zhou Zhou sent all the screenshots of the transfer to Wang Shengxue, and warned him that he was going to take legal measures to protect his rights, but he never waited for a reply. She knows very well that such a "threat" has no effect. Without a local residence permit, there is no way to sue in the local area. The most important thing is that she doesn’t even know the ID number of the other party.
At the bottom of Zhouzhou’s help post, a girl named Cheney left a message. When she found out that her "boyfriend" was not the so-called takeaway shop owner, but only the chef of the takeaway shop, she collapsed. But she dare not break up, let alone tell her parents, and pretend to be nice, because the 6 thousand yuan she lent him is likely to be lost. This 6 thousand yuan is her lucky money and her living expenses for four months at school.
Another message said, "Sisters should keep their eyes open after being cheated for 2,000 yuan and a month’s love".
The last sense of ceremony: blacklist
Chen Cong has met at least three or four, and the routines are basically similar. "Girls send photos on their own initiative, and they all look beautiful. Then they can make voice calls, and their voices are good. They also add WeChat, but they start asking for things, such as buying fruit, ordering takeout or buying bags, before they get along for a week." When Chen Cong asks for video chat, she often refuses for various reasons.
Chen Cong, thin, tall and dark, was born in 1990s. The labels on his personal homepage are: office workers, pop music, love Jay for more than ten years, and Kobe is a lifelong idol.
Because of professional reasons, Chen Cong has been riding a three-wheeled electric car between Qindu District and Weicheng District in Xi ‘an since six o’clock in the morning, not counting picking up things at home. Every day, there are about 300 express parcels waiting for him to deliver, and he has time to take out his mobile phone and chat for a while after waiting for customers or coming home from work for dinner. Most chat friends blacked him out because of his professional reasons or the delay in returning messages.
Slowly is the only girl who keeps in touch with Chen Cong. In the first month of online chatting, they exchanged photos, and three months later, they confirmed their love relationship online. Soon after, I slowly set off from Gansu by high-speed train to Xi ‘an to see him. Three days before his slow departure, Chen Cong asked for leave early. He informed his family in advance that his girlfriend would come to see him.
Because of polio, I limped slowly, my arms shrank, and my height was 1.6 meters, which seemed to be less than 100 kilograms.
In Xi ‘an, Chen Cong booked a hotel slowly, washed his feet at night and wiped his face during the day. After taking care of his daily life, he walked for another ten minutes and returned to the rented house. The two discussed going to the city that never sleeps in Datang as planned, but in the end, because it was too far away and the road was inconvenient, they simply strolled nearby.
In the meantime, at a dinner, Chen Cong introduced his girlfriend to his family. Afterwards, he was opposed by his family. This result was expected by him. Before meeting, I told him slowly that there was something wrong with my leg, but after meeting, Chen Cong found that her arms and hands were also inconvenient, "she couldn’t even hold a pen".
After getting along for a few days, Chen Cong’s evaluation of Slowly is: Good looks, good personality, but a little stubborn temper, will get angry inexplicably, always worried that feelings can not be maintained after separation.
Before deciding to meet, Chen Cong calculated the money he had saved. The bride price in Gansu was very high, but the money in his hand was far from enough.
Four days passed quickly, and she decided to return home slowly. No one mentioned their marriage again. Chen Cong put her on the train safely and thanked her for her trust.
After the separation, the contact became less and less. After more than a month, he found himself blacked out, and then he blacked out the other party. Later, he wrote on his personal homepage: If I never meet you again, I wish you good morning, good afternoon and good night.
From time to time, people in the square get a marriage certificate. "Although I don’t know whether it’s true or not, I still envy it." He said. (Text/Proofread by Sun Xiaoyuan/Interviewed by Li Yingzhuo are all pseudonyms)